Reaching Out: Why Most People Pull Back

Most of us have old friends we’ve lost touch with over the years. Friendships fade and relationships go south. A good friend takes a job in a new city. Someone you care about moves back home after finishing college. Sometimes, life just takes us in separate directions, and there seems to be nothing we can do about it. We shrug and chalk it up to fate, some uncontrollable force that convinces us that past relationships are best left, well, in the past. But why not just get back in touch? If that relationship was important to you, then it’s probably worth at least trying to rekindle it, right?

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After an extended period of being out of contact, getting back in touch with old friends can feel a little awkward. You might think, “They haven’t contacted me, maybe they’re not interested in chatting.” Or, “Am I going to seem like a weirdo, still thinking of them after all these years?” In the end, you let your fears and worries get the best of you – and you don’t end up reaching out to them at all.

But here’s the thing: they’re probably thinking the same thing about getting back into contact with you! They might wonder if you’ll even remember them. Maybe they’re scared to find that they didn’t make as big an impression on you as they once thought – or they are worried you’ll think that getting back in touch after all this time is random or creepy, like you thought. Of course, you know better than that!

If one of your closest friends from high school finally reestablished contact with you, you wouldn’t feel that way at all, would you? Of course not! In fact, you would probably feel quite the opposite – you would be flattered that they valued your friendship enough to take the time to find you again! You would feel special, appreciated, and happy to relive the good ol’ days with someone who previously existed only in your most distant memories.

So what are you waiting for? There’s no reason not to get in touch with your friends from the good old days, the bad old days, or any old days. They’ll probably be every bit as thrilled to hear from you as you would be to hear from them, so don’t be afraid to reach out.


Time for Some Detective Work!

Not sure how to get in touch with your old friends? Don’t worry. People search engines make it easy to find people for free! You can search for your old pals by name, address, email, phone number, or any bits of contact information you might have held on to all these years. If you have just one of these pieces of information, you can use the powerful search function at, one of the best people search resources out there, to find the person you’re looking for.

It’s as simple as typing in the information you have, and – voila! – your people search will yield the results that match the information entered. From there, you can find that old friend’s phone number or address, and reach out to rekindle the friendship that was once so strong.


Why Wait?

However you choose to get back in touch with your old friends, the important thing is that you actually do it. You don’t want to live the rest of your life wondering what happened to those special people who once meant so much to you. With the online resources available at our fingertips, getting back in touch is simple – so don’t make it harder than it needs to be! Don’t let your fears of reaching out be the reason you hold back. Reach out to that old friend today – you won’t regret it!






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